It’s amazing how quickly you can find your life filling up. One day, you have nothing going on, you have all the time in the world to play a game, hang out with people, etc. And the next, you find yourself struggling to hang out in a non-work related way just once a week. Continue reading
There is a lot of change coming. Some for me, some for friends, some for people I don’t really know, but it is coming for all of us. We can’t escape it. Change is a part of life, and change is good, but it’s not always easy.
For me, one of the big changes is losing a place where I have so many memories. I can’t really say too much about this yet since I’m not sure how public the knowledge is, but some of my best memories with some of my best friends happened at this place, and now it’s changing and we’re losing it. I’m excited for the possibilities in the new place, but the old place always felt like home, a place of comfort, a place of rest and peace.
With that change, I have been asked to help develop a few things. And I am so excited to help, but I find myself wondering why I was asked. I don’t think I have any great wisdom, or any great insight on these things, but I have been asked to help. So I find myself excited for the changes, for the role I get to play in these coming adventures, but I find myself nervous because I know I am not equipped to do it. But I also know that God does not call the equipped, He equips the called. So if the people who have prayerfully asked me to help them with this believe I am the right man for the job, then I must trust that God knows what He is doing and that He will give me what I need to do it…
I don’t know what the road ahead looks like, but I’m oddly ok with that….
I have had a few people who couldn’t be there when I spoke at Amplify Youth Ministry a few weeks ago ask me for my notes, so today, I figured I would share them with you all who wanted them. I hope you enjoy 🙂
As I have been talking to people recently about counselors, and all that, I got to thinking, what is a counselor exactly? We think of them as therapists, and someone who we go and see when we have a mental problem, or when we are in debt, we see financial counselors, and problems in marriage, we see marriage counselors. And with all this, we get the notion that we have to have some degree to be a counselor, but this is not true. When you look up the word “counselor” in the Merriam-Webster dictionary, the first definition they give is this: “a person who gives advice or counseling.” See, a counselor is just someone who gives advice. So many times, we have a counselor, and don’t even realize it. This person is someone who, when you get in a fight with your girlfriend or you mess up with them and now she is mad at you, or vice versa, you look to them to talk it out. This is the person who, when you lose a friend or someone close to you, they are there to comfort you and remain there for you as long as you need them. This is the person who is there for you every step of the way, who says: “no matter what happens, I am there for you.” They do things to help you without thinking “What is in it for me?” All they want to do is help. If you don’t have a counselor, let me encourage you to find one, find someone whom you trust to do what is best for you.
“When you can’t run anymore, you crawl, and when you can’t crawl – when you can’t do that, you find someone to carry you.” ~ Firefly
I spend a lot of time talking about friends.
But that is because friendship is one of the most important things to get you through life. They are the ones to laugh in your joy, cry in your pain, and pull you along when you don’t have the strength.
But what is a true friend? In an age where you “friend request” someone on Facebook after meeting them for 5 min, I wonder if we have lost the true meaning of what it means to be a friend… Continue reading
Why I’ll never do a “Truth is…”
I don’t know how many of you play the game “Truth is…” on Facebook, but for those of you who don’t know what it is, someone puts the phrase “Truth is…” on their status, then if you “like” it, they have to post what they really think about you on your wall…
This game saddens me. Continue reading
The most important aspect of any relationship is being open with each other. Whether it’s dating, friends, family, spouses, anyone. The relationship will only survive if you are open about things with that person. Keeping feelings (good or bad) inside and not sharing them is the quickest way to guarantee that your relationship will fall apart. Continue reading
Well, today is Thanksgiving Day. So I guess I’ll be like everyone else and say the things I am thankful for…
First, is my family. Mom, dad, sister, cousins, aunts, uncles, grandma… They have been the ones who have shaped me into who I am today with their love, support, and strength through all my crazy idea’s, plans and escapades… and stood by me through it all.
Next I’d like to thank my “extended” family. Not like cousin family, but those people who are like family to me (ie my adopted parents, brothers, sisters, etc). Glenn, Luli, & Jordan Stoltzfus; Rodney & Stephanie Smoker; Cody & Cameron Hall; Ryan Dagen; Tyler Stoltzfus; My “little bro”, Brandon; Josh Stippich; Gordon Heinrich; Jonathan Masteller; Mahlon Beiler & so many more… Continue reading
Here’s to the twilight
here’s to the memories
these are my souvenirs
~”Souvenirs” by Switchfoot
When you look around my room, you will find an assortment of so many random things. (seriously, ask my roommates, they’ll tell you). There’s a teddy bear, there’s poster with burnt paper, a jar of oil, an old style bullet, a can that had the side ripped open, a key, a pin to a grenade, a ship, some rocks, and I could go on and on.
Why do I have them? What is their purpose? to many people, these items are probably just a random collection of junk. But to me, every item is a memory, and more important than just a memory, it’s a memory of a person, and a life changed. Some are memories from my own life, a memory of a version of me in the past (some good, some bad). And some are memories of someone else’s life that I had the awesome chance to get to watch (and if I was really lucky, God let me play this little tiny part in).
But with the wedding comes the chaos of the getting ready, the (what felt like) 5,000,000 people, and the tons of “congratulations” (like I had something to do with getting her hitched, lol.) Then after the wedding, we have all the party and the family and friends who come to the house to change and gather their stuff and all that.
It’s a lot of fun, but for an introvert like me, it’s maddening, draining, and overwhelming.
I usually deal well with being in situations like that, but this was probably one of the most draining experiences of my life. It got me thinking, why was this so draining on me?
Then it hit me.
From the time I got home on Thursday night until the time I left on Saturday night to go back to Gap, I didn’t have time to myself to pray or read my bible.
No time for God.
I know. It’s really disturbing to me that my time was pushed away so easily. That time to ourselves is so important. We need to take time to relax, de-stress, and chill with God. Those are the most important times in our day. They are the times that give us energy and the power to keep on going on.
Never forget to spend time with yourself. To come back to earth, reflect and gain perspective .