“’Why did God give free will to human beings?’ Because free will, though it makes evil possible, is also the only thing that makes love possible. A world of robots would hardly be worth creating. God has designed his high creatures for the happiness of being voluntarily united to Him and to each other in an ecstasy of love and delight, of which the most rapturous love between a man and a woman on this earth is but a dim reflection. To enjoy such a love, human beings must be free.”
~ C.S. Lewis
Free will… It’s what makes us human. This ability to, ultimately, do what we want is an amazing gift.
And an amazing curse.
With this power of “free will” we can do both good things and bad things. When I see someone crying, I can choose to go over to them and comfort them, talk to them, etc (good), or I can ignore it, or even worse, go over and make fun of them for crying. I know what I should do, but in the end, it’s my choice. That is free will.
If you point a gun at someone and tell them “tell me you love me” and they say it, do you really think they love you, or do you think they are saying it just to please you? But, at least vocally, there is almost no risk of rejection. If God hadn’t given us free will, then it would be like him pointing the gun at us and telling us to love him.
But instead He stands there, with His arms open wide saying “I love you, come to me, tell me you love me”. Now you feel like you have a choice. You feel like you can walk away without getting shot. That is what true, unconditional, love is. But this kind of love also opens us up to pain, rejection, and hurt.
But which one is more real? Which one would you rather have?
Remember that next time you ask “Where is God?” God doesn’t force himself onto you, so if you tell Him to get out of your life, He will. He might still be standing there telling you “it’s ok, I’m right here, just come to Me, I love you” but until you tell Him you want Him, He’s not going to do anything.